Give Kids Praise, Not Sweets

If you want to reward a child, give them your praise and not a sweet. This can be hard but remember:

• Your praise is valuable.


• By giving a sweet you are devaluing your praise (both to the child and yourself): they will learn to seek sweets and not praise.


• By making sweets something to work hard for you are increasing their perceived value.


• The child will learn to expect a sweet when they’ve done something well.

A similar message applies to children who have hurt themselves or are going through an unpleasant experience (e.g. the dentist): give them some love, not a lolly.

Penelope Leach summaries this well in her excellent Baby & Child book (page 309):

If you can keep sweets out of the emotional arena and treat them as coolly and calmly as you treat other particularly nice-tasting things such as strawberries or honey, none of this trouble will arise. Many children passionately enjoy strawberries and will eat as many as they can get during their short season. But how many of those children whine and cry and throw tantrums for strawberries?

Thought on Building Identification from the Air

On trying to identify buildings for an upcoming trip in Google Earth I was struck with the obvious thought: when are businesses going to start making themselves identifiable from the air—for instance with signage painted on the roof?